Attraction vs Envy

A written experience- the people who become attracted may tear you down. When you reach a certain point, you emit energy. This energy attracts people without knowing if their intentions are good, or bad. Most of the time, when you're genuine in your living, the people that come in your life just want to take advantage of you. This is something I can very well say has happened to me, far too many times. 

Sometimes it's not intentional. For instance, I have friends that know I am patient and caring. At any time, they know I'm available to talk and provide attention as well as love! So, they tend to call, text, pull up etc, with all of their problems. Now, it's not an issue, right? I'm their friend, so what could be the harm in that? 

The harm is, they steal my energy and recharge themselves. Depending on the situation, most people only come to you when they need an ear, and just an ear. They don't want to listen and take advice. You know, those friends that cry to you about their significant other, and continue to run right back to them? It's like that. They come sad and defeated, you build them back up, make them feel better, and they run off to do the same thing. 

In other cases where it is intentional, it comes off as jealousy. A person who loves themself, as well as others, and shows confidence without a care in the world, will have people who envy them. This is a way of flattery. The person may watch you, and never support you, or they may even go as far as saying things about you that are not true, just to diminish your character. This is a challenge when living a positive lifestyle, because you will want to... pop off! I won't lie, that is one thing I struggled with on my journey. It took me a little longer than most to learn how to dismiss negativity when it was obviously intended to degrade my image in my community. I realized that those people are struggling with something deeper than anything I have going on, and all they need is a little more motivation to see that they can have the same amount of love and confidence that they see me put out. Remember in the midst of all the support, hate, positivity, and negativity, always stay true to the reason you began your journey. The love you have for yourself will never fall short of what you deserve, once you learn what you deserve!

Attracted to Confidence

Here's a written experience- people become attracted to your confidence. It's pretty common to know that people are drawn to ones they find attractive. Think for a second, what makes someone attractive to you? Is it the way that they carry themself? Most of the time, it is. Even when an individual has a horrible personality, they can still be attractive in a way. 

When you become confident in yourself, you start to notice that people are more interested in you. If you are confident in your business, your music, your art, etc, you will receive support. This is because people see credibility in you, for the way they see you compared to the way you portray yourself. When they both match up, it creates opportunity.

Even if the people that notice your confidence don't offer support, they will still give you attention. They tune in to see the things that you do, and how you do them. It will feel like you are always in the spotlight, and that can most definitely become overwhelming. Remember the reason why you are so confident, and that reason should be because you owe it to yourself. Not to please others, and not because someone else gave you a reason to be confident. 

Personally, I have experienced this. I have had people become attracted to the way I present myself, and I can attest, it is a lot to handle! I can say that I have always had a little "clout" as we call it these days, which means popularity. After you truly become confident in yourself and less worried about clarification from others, the popularity can very well go to your head. You know that you are, THAT, so you really don't need anyone around who feels otherwise, even if they do feel the same it's like you already know- and that's where the cockiness can come into play. I have never felt that I was better than anyone else, but I can say that it becomes tempting to think that way when you, as well as everyone else see's the best in you. Just remember to always stay true to yourself, and never tear anyone down in the process of lifting yourself up. Instead, try lifting others to the place where you are. It feels great to love yourself, so help someone else feel good about themself!